Raising Boys n Barbells

On average, in my role as Mom I “clock in” at 6 a.m., and “clock out” at 8 p.m., seven days a week. This equates to 98 hours a week, or the equivalent of two-and-a-half full-time jobs (and that’s if the 8 clocking out actually happens and the kids stay in their beds until morning). Upon the arrival of my first born, with a new feeling of no time for myself, it is no surprise I often found myself depleted, anxious, and overwhelmed. This was not included in the “Guide to Becoming a Parent handbook”; I knew how to change a diaper, feed my child, and rock him to sleep but I did not know how to find the time for ME. By default I put my own needs last in desperation to take care of this tiny human being that was now my full responsibility to keep alive, often feeling guilt every time I took time for myself. This resulted in several arguments with my husband, crying to my Mom on the phone in exhaustion, irritability around my children, and an inability to look at myself in the mirror. I quickly realized that in order for me to be the best version of myself for my husband and kids, I needed to start prioritizing my own health and well-being. When flight attendants give their pre-flight safety instructions, one of the things they tell you is that, in the case of a change in cabin pressure, be sure to place the resulting oxygen mask over your own face first before assisting anyone else, even your own children. This analogy often reminds me that in motherhood self-care is not selfish, but necessary.

Finding time to prioritize my health and wellness has changed my life for the better allowing me to enjoy the best parts of motherhood. The results have not only impacted me but also those around me, including my loved ones.

1. Stress Relief – Motherhood is HARD, let’s be honest with ourselves. If we thought we knew stress before kids, now we have less time and more responsibility. Dedicating time to exercise, whether it’s a solo run, a group fitness class, or a peaceful yoga session, allows me to clear my mind, release tension, and find a sense of well-being and relaxation. Namaste.
2. Fitness and Vitality – Motherhood is physically demanding, especially as a boy mom. I want to be able to keep up with my kids as they grow older, and even my grandkids someday. A focus on my health and wellness has helped me to gain strength, flexibility and endurance. I am ready to chase after my toddler running in the street or pick him up on my shoulder when he refuses to listen on the way out of Target.
3. Positive Mindset – The demands of motherhood can take a toll on mental health, leading to feelings of anxiety, depression, and burnout. By carving out time for myself, I can prioritize my mental well-being and cultivate a positive mindset that benefits both myself and my family. Happy Mom, Happy Life.
4. Increased Energy – The demands of motherhood are exhausting and will deplete you if you let them; it is impossible to pour from an empty cup. Dedicating time for myself allows me to recharge my batteries and emerge feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, and ready to take on whatever challenge mom life throws my way. Toddler tantrums, bring it on.
5. Productivity – Making time for myself has had the biggest return on my investment when it comes to time. As a Mom, it is important you are efficient and effective with the little time that you have. With greater energy, focus, and clarity that comes with a better sense of well-being, I am more productive in my work day and responsibilities at home, and as a result am more present with my children when I am with them.
6. Set a Healthy Example – My children are always by my side, observing every move I make, often with the desire to repeat exactly what I am doing. If I am vacuuming, my son will grab his toy Dyson; if my husband is doing construction, he is right by his side with his own set of tools. The model you set for your children at a young age impacts the person they grow up to be. My hope for my children is that they watch my habits around health and wellness and see the importance of taking care of oneself and making healthy choices. Some day the roles will be reversed and they will need to be strong enough to take care of me :).

I feel so strongly about the importance of health and wellness in my life and my experience as a mother that I am on a mission to help other strong mamas find time to prioritize their health and wellness too. If I can do it, so can you.

Let go of your guilt and put on your oxygen mask first with me. Your children and family will thank you.

xoxo,

ME